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WHILE IN WAITING - How to be intentional about walking in purpose (STORY TIME)

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4 minutes read How do you walk around all day everyday with a sense of purpose? How do you constantly have on your mind the person that God has called you to be? Image from around the web Purpose: The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. A couple of weeks ago, I was in a questionable situation, and I messaged my friend a few days later to 'report' myself. All the while, I had been praying, because I believe a lot of the things scriptures say about me, so when I engage or I'm involved in anything contrary to my identity according to the word of God, I always want to know why that can still happen, and what to do to avoid a re-occurrence. Fast forward to the next Sunday, I got invited to a service by a friend. I usually never stand for recognition as a first timer in a church because I already have a home church, and I know I'm just visiting if I attend a church for the first time based on an invite. This Sunday was no different, I

CLEAN HANDS, PURE HEART

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3 minutes read I started to type, and then I realized I don't have the exact words to convey my thoughts to you. I'm going to have to find the words regardless, and I know I can, because this is something that is very dear to me, and I have struggled with quite a lot. The first time I realized I had clean hands, but not a pure heart, I felt really sad. I couldn't understand it. I couldn't understand why I'd imagine myself doing things I had never done, and hoped to God that I'd never do. That went on for a while, and I was really irritated by it, until a particular Sunday. The preacher at church encouraged us to speak to our leaders about the things we struggle with, because it was necessary for our freedom. At this point I was simply tired and wanted to stop having those thoughts, so I waited after service and went to see a counsellor. I did not understand at the time, but he was asking questions relating to the things I take in. He wanted to know if I looked a

I DO THIS WHEN I FEEL LONELY - CHRISTIAN SINGLES

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I received quite a lot of feedback from  Ten things to do when you are single and feel lonely , so if you feel lonely, you are not alone, and if you have not read that blog post, please follow the link to read it. I believe you would find it helpful. I decided to speak with some of my friends, and I started out by asking them if they ever get lonely, LOL , and their rather strong affirmative responses, assured me that I am quite okay. and it's only human to feel lonely. Always remember though, YOU ARE NOT A LONELY PERSON, you simply FEEL LONELY IN THAT MOMENT.  With their permission, I have replicated some of their responses here, Enjoy! ELLA HMMN, I scroll on Instagram, watch movies on Netflix, or YouTube anything to get my mind off. However, on some occasions, I just go back to what God had told me concerning my marital destiny. I have them written so I read through it and it gives me the sense that I would someday be found and it lowkey allows the presence of God to rub on me. A

ADDRESSING HURT FROM THE PAST (BAGGAGE)

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4 minute read I'm seeing a series on Netflix, and I saw a scene that got me thinking, ‘Adam and Eve were so lucky to have a clean slate as part of their love story’. You know, no issues from past relationships or their upbringing or from taking in terrible advice. But even that didn’t last long. I don’t want to imagine what their relationship was like after the Apple eating episode and being banished from the Garden of Eden. Image from  pinterest My point, you’re not Adam or Eve ( thank God !), and we don’t all get clean slates with which we go into a relationship. We have all been hurt at some point and have issues . The only difference between you and the next person is, that person has recognized and addressed their ‘issues’, so it’s no longer baggage they carry around. Okay, you may be the ‘next person’ that has already addressed their issues. What’s important here is that,  if you still have baggage from a past relationship or something you picked up from observing your parent

HELP! I’M SINGLE (and feel lonely) - Ten things to do when you are single and feel lonely

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3 minutes read We’ve all been there at some point. You are not dating anyone, and on some days you are a strong independent person that doesn’t need anybody. On other days, well, let’s just blame it on that Instagram post or the romantic movie you saw. You are still a strong independent person. But between you and I, some days are hard and you want to be able to call someone and share the tiny unimportant details with them and have them laugh at your not very funny jokes ( see how I didn’t say ‘boring’, more positivity, less negativity... LOL ) And those days are normal. If that’s it, then you’re good. You’re perfectly normal. We were made to desire intimacy, so it’s okay that you desire a relationship of your own at times. Hope deferred makes the heart sick  but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life - Proverbs 13:12 If you have more lonely days than days when you’re assured and fine, I have been there too. If you are in a relationship, keep reading, there might be something here for yo

MY HEART ON MY SLEEVE

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3 minutes read The Lord is my light and my salvation, so why should I be afraid? The Lord is my fortress, protecting me from danger, so why should I tremble? -Psalms 27:1 I woke up this morning with this scripture on my heart, and so I plugged my music in ( Rhythms of Grace by Hillsong ), opened up my YouVersion Bible, and began to read. I must have stopped a few times to catch my breath and hold back the tears that were threatening to pour. Teach me how to live, O Lord. Lead me along the right path… Psalms 27:11 I finished reading and I started all over again, but I couldn't make it past the first verse which is the opening for this post. I've had a draining past month, and not just because I wrote the Bar Exams, I had an emotionally draining month as well. As a matter of fact, I've not been able to pull myself together for a study on Unity of Purpose.  I thought I was done with 'Trust Issues'. Actually I was so sure I was done. I remember sometime in 2018 when I s

ACCOUNTABILITY IN CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIPS

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4 minutes read Have you seen War Room ? If you have not, please please do. If you have, just hold that thought, you would realize why it's important you have the movie in mind shortly. Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success Proverbs 15:22 First and most important, We must understand that as children of God, we are first accountable to our Father. How do I know? There's a myriad of scriptures that teach us so. To mention a few; Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable  - Hebrews 4:13 The Lord's light penetrates the human Spirit, exposing every hidden motive - Proverbs 20:27 Dear reader, you are here because there is something (someone) in you that makes you want to choose the right path against all odds. I know because no matter how enticing the wide path seems, I always find myself trying to fit into the narrow path. Before I go any further, it might serv