UNITY OF PURPOSE

4 minutes read A lot of times, I find myself wondering about 'The One'. Who is he? Where is he right now? Have I met him? Or more annoyingly, who is he dating? *Rolling my eyes* When I say 'The One' though, I'm usually not thinking about one person that God made specifically just for me, one person that must find me and I must recognize, otherwise I'd miss it, and marry wrongly. Or is that what it is? Is there really someone whose ribs was taken out to create me? I honestly used to secretly fear that I'd get the exact opposite of what I wanted in a man because for some strange reason, I heard somewhere that 'a sure way to know God is leading you, is if what you think you are being led to do isn't something you'd naturally want to do'. Please unread that . Getting to know God more, I figured out that what the person was trying to communicate was the disagreement between the flesh and the Spirit, but that wasn't a very accurate way to expl

4 minutes read I've learned how to love from Love, and I will not be giving or accepting any less. Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. -1 John 4:7-8 I've been told I'm a girly girl, so don't be surprised to learn that I absolutely believe in 'happily ever after's', and even look forward to one. Love stories excite me. More so, godly couple love stories. Through all of my excitement and fairy tale hopes though, I have never been one to remove difficulty from a love relationship. So it's safe to say I'm still in touch with reality ( Thank God! ). Disagreements, tough times, and the likes of them are things I consider a healthy part of a love story. Actually, I believe going through those, and coming out stronger makes an even more beautiful love story. That's the reason I never advocate a break u

Why am I waiting? And what exactly am I waiting for? These are the questions that come to mind when I think of 'The Wait'. I have a desire to be married someday. Actually, saying it this way, is putting it lightly. But I can't help but wonder, why am I waiting? And if indeed I am waiting, what makes up my season of waiting? I have a thought, and I'd share with you in a moment, but first, read through the chat I had with a few people in different seasons of life. The question put to them is ' What does The Wait/Waiting mean to you in the context of dating/romantic relationships '. I had so much fun putting this interview together. A lot of the responses I got were far removed from what I had in mind, Lol, but I did gain new perspective, and for that I am grateful. I hope you enjoy reading as much as I enjoyed writing.   MICHAEL, MALE, SINGLE. Waiting is a moment of learning, unlearning and relearning. It is a time to discover strength, and self. It is a time to o

Unity of Purpose: Hi Ella. What is purpose to you? Ella:  Purpose to me is basically My Reason. Reason for existing, reason for getting up every day, reason for the decisions I make and how I align myself. And ultimately the reason for which God made me. Unity of purpose: How does your relationship affect your life purpose? Ella : Whether it   be friendship, romantic relationships or partnership, aligning with the wrong person/people can greatly deter you from your purpose. Focusing on romantic relationships or marriages, any married person will tell you that if you marry wrong, it’s the worst thing that can ever happen to a person and vice versa goes for marrying right. This is largely due to proximity and influence. Physically, you need someone who can build you up, advice you, be your biggest fan, read briefs/contracts with you, recommend you to people, believes in you etc. Spiritually and more importantly, you need someone who can intercede with you, share revelations with you, com

' Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble' - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 The reason scriptures advocate that two people are better than one is because there is an assumption that two people who are together can help each other get back up if one person falls. Where two people are together however, but can't help each other get back up, I can't say those are the two people scriptures say are better off than one. To really fulfill the advantage scripture sees in two people being better off than one, the both of them would have to be going in the same direction, for the same purpose. And I believe these are the kind of 'two people' scriptures speak of. Two people who are of similar vision, and ideologies. Two people who can pick each other up in life’s journey. Two people who can really help each other succeed.  I've never really been